Wait wait wait, you might say. This all sounds far too good to be true, and of course the catch is that we all have a sin nature and act selfishly at times and
you can't just have an economy where everything is free because people will take too much
you can't have a justice system without punishments because people will act callously and fake-apologize
you can't have a group work together for the good of all because most of them will look out for themselves first
Welcome to consensus conflict resolutions. Here's the general purpose solution:
1) Identify the conflict from your perspective
2) Ask the other person or people nicely to behave in a way that resolves the conflict
3) Wait a reasonable amount of time.
4) Repeat steps 2 and 3 but wait twice as long on step 3.
That's the whole thing. IT WORKS. It works best in the context of a relationship, and so this system of groups is designed to mean that you only interact with people who you are in relationship with as much as possible. If this consensus system doesn't work, then, I'm sorry but you have to decide whether living with the behavior is worth the relationship, and if it isn't, end the relationship.
It's too simple, you say. No way that would work on big problems.
Well, let's try it.